Tuesday, 12 June 2018

Dude, I'm like so bisexual

Hey, so, before we all start throwing purple and blue streamers around, let me clarify a few things. No, it that doesn't mean I am on the way to gay town, hanging around waiting for the right man, I'm just curious or trying to seem edgy. I genuinely enjoy both men and women. 

It has taken me longer than I would like to admit writing this. Almost as long as it took me to come out I suppose. The biggest difficulty I found was trying to pinpoint when I 'came out.' 

What even is coming out? How do we decide when someone is out? Is it the moment they publicly voice their sexuality? Is it when they start to tell people? Does one have to tell a select number of people to be considered 'out?'

Am I even out?!

Thursday, 31 May 2018

But you don't look gay?

Hello, my name is Annabel (Belle) and I am 22 years old. Since the age of 18, I have openly identified as bisexual or gay depending on the day of the week and the state of my eyebrows. I can quite confidently say I am attracted to both men and women, and now feel no shame because of it. 

When I started to question my sexuality and indeed come to terms with it, I asked the question that I think most queer people ask: do I look gay enough? Here I was, 18 years of age, long dark hair, big boobs, dressed head to toe in black and seldom without red lipstick. I looked more like a tragic vampire emo goth than someone whose sucking dick and eating pussy.

Then again, what does a lesbian or bisexual woman look like? In my head, it was someone with short hair, a nose ring, smaller boobs, and an overall masculine style. It was not someone who preferred the pinup to the button down. This stereotype stuck in my head as I did what any blossoming queer did, and scrolled through Tumblr. If you type lesbian into the search bar (with safe search on) women pop up with beanies and undercuts-nobody who looked like me. 

Thursday, 24 May 2018

The (Crazy) Ex-Girlfriend

I came to a realisation the other day, that I am someone’s crazy ex (well probably more than one person’s if we’re honest.) I have never considered myself a particularly clingy or needy person, I barely even consider myself monogamous if we’re honest. Yet these slightly basic people who I have previously dated have sent me spiraling off the deep end when I inevitably get bored and leave them.
I'm not talking about the American movie cuteness of drinking a bit too much tequila and rebounding onto someone who just so happens to be ‘the one.’ We’re talking ‘I can live on sour skittles and five-pound red wine for a fortnight’ (it's a skill I promise). We’re also talking about the fact that I keep my exes, they must stay in my life, they are mine, casually collecting them like some weird hoarder.

Tuesday, 17 April 2018

FEMALE EMPOWERMENT: Annalise, Phoebe & Eleven: What they have taught me

Gal Gadot gave us tenderness and chills as Wonder Woman; Danai Gurira’s loyalty led an army of women under her King T’Challa, and Scarlett Johansson’s Black Widow was not only intelligent and athletic but sexy at the same time. 

We as women are reshaping the face of the earth by standing up for injustice and proclaiming we want our rights. Women are more prominent in the workforce-shedding that image of the helpless dainty lady and vocalizing equal pay to male co-workers. We are strong in many ways, still beautiful but far more powerful.

My top three female empowerment tv sitcom heroines are motivating, liberating and dedicated to work with a sweet devotion to family and friends. Highlighting these characters is a new way to show how tv has a positive effect on your life if you choose to view it a certain way, and a positive effect on my life.

What do Annalise Keating, Phoebe Buffay and Eleven have in common?